*takes a sip of water* …yep, same water from last article.
Ok, so now that we know that beach homes are beautiful with a weak foundation, and that the smallest thing can change a Facebook status from “in a relationship” to “single,” let’s dig deeper. Why are there a plethora of breakups? Honestly, there are a myriad of reasons. No worries, I only want to talk about one. One particular reason why I believe a lot of relationships do not have longevity. One specific reason why, if you cough wrong, your relationship is over. That reason is…foundation of friendship, or lack thereof.
We live in a society today where you can walk to a magazine stand, turn on a TV, or login to your social media account and see the…(I wish you can see my hand gestures as I give you my air quotations)…”it” couple. Remember when Justin Timberlake and Britney Spears were together? Ok, remember JLo and Diddy? JLo and Ben? JLo and Marc Anthony? Kim Kardashian and [refuses to list all of em]? Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie? Janet and Jermaine Dupri? Jennifer Aniston and…ok, so you get the picture. Hollywood and media outlets would go GAGA over these couples. I would just sit back and count the days before they “suddenly” breakup.
Bookmark that point.
I grew up with a lot of friends…ok, associates…who would spit game to a lady, get her number, get the drawls, and play that girl like a violin, just stringing her along. The poor girl thought she was gonna be in a relationship…NOPE.
Bookmark that too.
I also had a few associates who were in a platonic friendship, but scared to transition into a romantic relationship. The fear of losing their friend caused them to not even try to explore the possibility.
Now, I’m about to un-bookmark these points. *cracks knuckles*
When you see the typical celebrity couple, one thing you don’t see is their friendship. Think about it. Look at the longest lasting relationship you know. Look at your grandparents. Look at Will and Jada Smith. Look at the Obamas. Although fictional, look at the Huxtables. Look at Corey and Topanga. Now…look at these “it” couples that the media talk about all the time. Friendship vs Associates.
The guy who clearly want the drawls isn’t trying to get to know the hopeless romantic, so the friendship stage is skipped. Remember the “I want a ruff neck” era? Well, this is where the “bros before hoes” mantra took off. Gotta keep that ruff neck persona, right? It’s amazing how “thugs” would take a bullet for their “homie” but would be Ike Turner to their “main chick.” (For those who aren’t savvy on the terminology, “homie” is where the FRIENDSHIP is, hence “taking a bullet” for said friend. A “main chick” is like the shiniest trophy on the trophy wall. That’s it. Nothing more. You wouldn’t take a bullet for a trophy now, would you?)
“I don’t want to lose my best friend” says the single guy with the cute bff who is habitually friendzone’d for no legitimate reason. In the previous examples with the celeb couples and the “get the drawls” guys/”hopeless romantic” girl, the friendship stage is often skipped. In the platonic example, the friendship stage becomes a prison. In the next article, I will break down the importance of friendship in a relationship.